Don't persuade people you don't need to persuade.
2019-02-25
[People who don't need to be persuaded.
It's tautology-ish, but I thought Dare to write the obvious was important, so I wrote it.
I changed it to "don't try to convince people you don't need to convince."
A little less tautological.
natural And yet we often forget.
When others have an opinion that differs from one's own, one often feels as if one has to convince them of it.
Others are often "[People who don't need to be persuaded.
If others have different opinions from you, it often "doesn't matter".
If someone has an opinion that differs from yours, it does not mean that you have been denied the right to hold that opinion.
There is no need to feel as if your existence is threatened and to be defensive.
Related: Dissent does not exist. / Not defensive in online discussions.
Don't spend money on trying to convince people who don't matter.
The cost should be spent on persuading a very small percentage of "those who need to be persuaded".
What determines if someone needs to be persuaded or not?
It is whether or not the person's opinion will affect the probability and timing of achieving the Target that you want to achieve.
relevance
Do not persuade people who are not your intended target
Determine who to persuade
Not a customer.
2025-03-03
When is persuasion necessary?
It is whether the person's opinion will affect the probability of achieving the Target that you want to achieve and the timeframe for achieving it.
It's when they have Rare resources that they need to achieve what they want to achieve, and they need you to provide it for them.
I've been using the word "persuasion," but I think I'd have a broader perspective if I thought of it as "negotiations."
Not only by verbal persuasion, but also by exchanging resources that we can provide, or by pointing a weapon at them and threatening them.
Threatening to put up a weapon is an exchange for "safety"; it does not have to be you who threatens your safety; there is also "I will protect you from outside enemies." interchange format B.
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